Well, we all know pain is not a new feeling, experience or event for me. So here I am again. But, this time it's a little different, I can't raise my arms and my shoulders and neck hurt to even touch. I wondered if it was because of the TENS unit or Methotrexate withdrawal, but I searched information on these subjects and neither of them had contraindications. The closest I came to my question was that the TENS can cause muscle soreness if used all day or too long the same day. However, it should not cause pain to this extent. TENS should feel soothing, even in its muscle soreness; it should be a "good" soreness, like after working out and getting in a hot tub. I understand that with the EDS my response to any treatment will be different, apparently, even the response I have to "soothing" treatments. Sheesh!
I called the pain management clinic to get trigger point injections as they had said. After all, I can't use medication so I figured they could get me right in. Nope. The soonest they could get me in....17 days!!!!!!! I have pain NOW!!! In 17 days I'll be in AGONY!!! I will have gone to the ER! Not to mention I'll be in recovery from surgery so I may not even be able to make that appointment. Surgery + Agony from Muscle Pain - Pain Medication = I don't even want to think about it!!!! Really??? 17 days is the earliest you can get me in??? You're a pain clinic!!!
I decided to put in a call to the Orthopedic Surgeon and go the route I did not want to go...Prednisone. Yes, it's THAT BAD! The Physical Therapist had spoken to him about the cervical instability and radiating shoulder so the doc had a heads up. He said the doc said to just to call and he'd call a prescription for the prednisone and/or get me in to see him. I let the nurse know that I couldn't raise my arms and that it was painful to touch. I also let them know about the trigger point injections (maybe he'll do them?) and that the pain management center couldn't see me for 17 days. However, my biggest worry? That C-3 has gotten worse since it was already starting to bulge. Problems in C-3 and C-8 present as muscle and weakness in shoulder and neck area. It is not unusually for vertebrae above and below fused vertebrae to become herniated as they have to compensate in flexibility for the fused vertebrae that are no longer as flexible. In EDS this is exacerbated even more, especially in those with hypermobility of the spine (like me) because the spine is supposed to be even more flexible.
It feels as if one thing gets fixed, or at least it seems as if I'm getting a step-up on things, another thing breaks. I recently explained it better as feeling like I'm in a hamster wheel. I'm running, spinning, putting forth all this effort and getting nowhere. I'm exhausted! Of course, I'm not literally in a hamster wheel, that would be silly! What I mean is, it may be time to get off the wheel and accept that Prednisone is not my enemy. It may allow me to live with little (or no) pain, do physical therapy, do pilates, go grocery store.. in other words live a semi-normal life. But I admit, I'm scared, terrified, about the weight gain. People are so judgmental! I can never go back to Puerto Rico, talk about judgemental people, where the first thing out of people's mouths is: "you used to be so pretty, what happened to you? too much ice cream?" They have no idea: 3 surgeries in 7 months and many more looming in my future, a minimum pain level of 5 everyday. But, can I blame them when I judge myself so harshly? It's hard for me to look in the mirror and remember the girl that looked back used to be a size 0, then she turned into a size 14, and sometimes she becomes a size 16 if she's been on prednisone for a month (did you notice that I went from 1st person to 3rd person?). It's hard and sad for me, because being on prednisone means there's no chance I'll ever get back there again. And those people for Puerto Rico are right, she used to be so beautiful.
As always, leaning on faith to lead me down the right path. Trusting that God, Doctor of doctors, will lead my doctors down the right path towards my healing. Believing that the Universe has conspired for my greatest good. Listening for answers...
Tuesday, June 26, 2012
Saturday, June 23, 2012
On Pain Management
Well, I went to the pain management doctor yesterday. It was an interesting experience. First one doctor comes in, a "Fellow" in pain management and takes my history. He knew what EDS was and knew that it caused disc degeneration, but was surprised that I had so much disc degeneration without sustaining any falls or accidents. I'm surprised that he's surprised; or should I be alarmed? concerned? surprised that I have progressed or degenerated that quickly? He begins asking me about meds I have or have not tried. I was ready! I had made a list of EVERYTHING that I had EVER tried just so they knew that I had exhausted every possible means of therapy before pursuing this path. Again, he was surprised, but also glad that I was so prepared and knowledgeable of my medical history. It really does make it a lot easier for both them and me because it cuts down on redundancy and they see you me different eyes. They see me as a knowledgeable person who is in control of my medical condition, or at least as an active participant in its management. I would recommend this to anyone who needs to seek a second opinion on a particular situation: write down any medications you have tried, if you experienced side effects, if it was helpful or not, and any complimentary treatment you have received and if it was helpful or not; also think of anything that makes your condition better or worse. This will cut down on time and, again, the doctor's will look at you in a different light; you will have the upper hand.
Anyhow, the doctor came back with reinforcements, the treating physician, after all they are usually dealing with narcotics and this is the doctor that signs away his license, and another "Fellow". Not a good sign. The treating physician was knowledgeable in EDS and explained that they generally do not like to use narcotics in EDS because pain is generally chronic and tends to increase necessitating the need for a increase in medication. Furthermore, my history to sensitivity to opioids made it hard to treat and indicated that what LITTLE options were available should be reserved for the event of a serious injury or future surgeries when they would really be needed (i.e. Dilaudid and Fentanyl). He knew that I had exhausted non-narcotic treatment options such as Neurontin, Cymbalta, Lyrica and could not take Naproxen and anther NSAID's. It boiled right down to: THERE ARE NO MEDS WE CAN GIVE YOU. My heart sank...I would have to live with this every single day...on a good day a pain level of 5...on a bad day 8...and on a really bad day wanting to go to the hospital. Bear in mind I'm not talking about migraines, this is just EDS pain.
However, he suggested that I use of a TENS unit, and explained that the electrical stimulation offered the same pain relief as an Oxycodone. I could use it as much as I needed and anywhere I needed. He also stated that they could do trigger point injections on an as needed basis. He offered to do them that day because he could feel how tense the muscle was. I told him, that was at a pain level of 5 so it was pretty bearable at that point. Since they can only do these injections about every 3 months, and for me, they only last about 1 week, I would wait until an 8 or above (i.e. hospital level).
Yesterday I also had an upper GI with barium and confirmed that I do have a hiatal hernia and reflux. I knew about the reflux, no surprise there. But the hernia was confirmed. Well, besides the Prednisone weight, which thankfully is slowly starting to come off, the hernia explains the bloating in my upper stomach. Anything I eat or drink gets stuck in the esophagus and is slow to pass through into the stomach. Plus it is refluxed and well....you have a perfect bloat! As I was doing the test the Radiologist Doctor said the little bits of barium the had me drink were being refluxed immediately. I wasn't even feeling that, but he could see it! YUCK!
Well, yesterday was a day of conflicting emotions. I was happy the hernia was confirmed. It's and easy fix that's taken care of in the same acid reflux surgery. I was also happy that there was an explanation for this bloating and stomach distention! I knew it wasn't my eating, any little thing I ate or drank, made me puff up and I could hardly breathe, so I knew it had to be something else. I felt relieved that once I have the surgery I'd be able to breathe normally after drinking a cup of water and the bloat would fix itself.
Then, after the pain management visit, I was left almost numb becuase I didn't want to consider all the implications of what they had just told me. But, once I processed them, I'm left worried and disappointed, but I guess I got something out of it. I'm worried about what I'll be able to take for the pain after the surgery. It's not spine surgery, but it's going to be uncomfortable (to say the least) and Tylenol just isn't going to cut it. The TENS unit is great, so it made the visit worth it. But, I just don't feel comfort that there isn't really a medicine out there for me if there is more severe and generalized degeneration; was that doctor surprised about my degeneration so far? The Rheumy is going to have me start Celebrex for inflammation after I'm healed from the surgery, but it takes a month or so to kick in. He's also thinking that prednisone will be the only option for me. I guess in a way that constitutes pain management....does it? should it be something to pursue this early, or when I'm in a constant level 8 pain?
As always in faith...I'm listening for answers to my questions, to being led to right decision for me. Sometimes answers come in the form of feeling at peace with the decision we make.
Anyhow, the doctor came back with reinforcements, the treating physician, after all they are usually dealing with narcotics and this is the doctor that signs away his license, and another "Fellow". Not a good sign. The treating physician was knowledgeable in EDS and explained that they generally do not like to use narcotics in EDS because pain is generally chronic and tends to increase necessitating the need for a increase in medication. Furthermore, my history to sensitivity to opioids made it hard to treat and indicated that what LITTLE options were available should be reserved for the event of a serious injury or future surgeries when they would really be needed (i.e. Dilaudid and Fentanyl). He knew that I had exhausted non-narcotic treatment options such as Neurontin, Cymbalta, Lyrica and could not take Naproxen and anther NSAID's. It boiled right down to: THERE ARE NO MEDS WE CAN GIVE YOU. My heart sank...I would have to live with this every single day...on a good day a pain level of 5...on a bad day 8...and on a really bad day wanting to go to the hospital. Bear in mind I'm not talking about migraines, this is just EDS pain.
However, he suggested that I use of a TENS unit, and explained that the electrical stimulation offered the same pain relief as an Oxycodone. I could use it as much as I needed and anywhere I needed. He also stated that they could do trigger point injections on an as needed basis. He offered to do them that day because he could feel how tense the muscle was. I told him, that was at a pain level of 5 so it was pretty bearable at that point. Since they can only do these injections about every 3 months, and for me, they only last about 1 week, I would wait until an 8 or above (i.e. hospital level).
Yesterday I also had an upper GI with barium and confirmed that I do have a hiatal hernia and reflux. I knew about the reflux, no surprise there. But the hernia was confirmed. Well, besides the Prednisone weight, which thankfully is slowly starting to come off, the hernia explains the bloating in my upper stomach. Anything I eat or drink gets stuck in the esophagus and is slow to pass through into the stomach. Plus it is refluxed and well....you have a perfect bloat! As I was doing the test the Radiologist Doctor said the little bits of barium the had me drink were being refluxed immediately. I wasn't even feeling that, but he could see it! YUCK!
Well, yesterday was a day of conflicting emotions. I was happy the hernia was confirmed. It's and easy fix that's taken care of in the same acid reflux surgery. I was also happy that there was an explanation for this bloating and stomach distention! I knew it wasn't my eating, any little thing I ate or drank, made me puff up and I could hardly breathe, so I knew it had to be something else. I felt relieved that once I have the surgery I'd be able to breathe normally after drinking a cup of water and the bloat would fix itself.
Then, after the pain management visit, I was left almost numb becuase I didn't want to consider all the implications of what they had just told me. But, once I processed them, I'm left worried and disappointed, but I guess I got something out of it. I'm worried about what I'll be able to take for the pain after the surgery. It's not spine surgery, but it's going to be uncomfortable (to say the least) and Tylenol just isn't going to cut it. The TENS unit is great, so it made the visit worth it. But, I just don't feel comfort that there isn't really a medicine out there for me if there is more severe and generalized degeneration; was that doctor surprised about my degeneration so far? The Rheumy is going to have me start Celebrex for inflammation after I'm healed from the surgery, but it takes a month or so to kick in. He's also thinking that prednisone will be the only option for me. I guess in a way that constitutes pain management....does it? should it be something to pursue this early, or when I'm in a constant level 8 pain?
As always in faith...I'm listening for answers to my questions, to being led to right decision for me. Sometimes answers come in the form of feeling at peace with the decision we make.
Thursday, June 21, 2012
Exhausted and looking forward to...
I...am...exhausted. I'm so exhausted I would not be able to express to you with words how exhausted I am because I would not be able to speak. I can't think. I can't read a book. I want to, I just can't.
It's been a long week with doctor appointments, physical therapy, mine and Ian's, Jan's driving school and their baseball schedule...and that's without having to stay for their games and practices. Yes, judgmental mothers of the world, I am one of THOSE mothers, that drops her kids off at practice and leaves without setting foot outside of the car! It just goes to show you, that you never know peoples' circumstances. Maybe THAT person is suffering from an illness and isn't just dropping the kids off because she thinks its a babysitting service, maybe she just can't stay because the sun makes her sick, because her backs REALLY hurts, (and all of her other joints too), because she has surgery coming up and needs to get her affairs in order, or maybe she's caring for another family member, who is going through something like this. Well, that's my two cents. Anyway, Mark gets to ALL the games and practices and cheers them on and is the supportive parent, LOL.
I'm also overwhelmed. This week alone there were 8 medical appointments: vocal test, rheumatologist, physical therapy (me), physical therapy (Ian), surgeon (new), MH therapy, pain management (new), barium x-ray with swallow for upper GI (diagnostic for pre-surgery). This is about an average week of medical appointments, only the doctors, tests and days of the week change. Its a lot to handle! And driving is so painful! I also have to add, I am scared to see new doctors. So far, this week I have been SOOOOO lucky, in that they have been EXTREMELY friendly, they have made me feel at ease from the very first minute, and have been VERY knowledgeable in EDS!!! In fact, the surgeon asked for a test pre-surgery saying he would be surprised if I DIDN'T have a hiatal hernia because it's so common in EDS and I already have the advance GERD that goes with it! The Gastro that referred me, who is also relatively new, is such a sweetheart too! But, tomorrow I see the pain management people and I'm so scared that they'll think all I want is pain drugs. I'm sure they see that a lot, and I do want them to be able to find SOMETHING that I can use, especially post-surgery, but their facility has so many resources: TENS, PT, electro-stim therapy, ultrasound...that I know would be useful to me. Besides, I'm allergic to so many pain meds, that have got to know I'm not drug seeking! I'm also willing to do the work to feel better, but there HAS to be SOMETHING to at least EASE the pain when it gets really really bad.
With how overwhelming this all is, I hesitate,(roll my eyes and want to slap someone) when I hear, "maybe you should get a second opinion..." I think the medical team I have really is doing the best they can considering my circumstances. I have changed doctors when I have felt uncomfortable or felt that their attention and care has been sub par. I know that "a second opinion never hurts" but when a third and fourth are being sought it gets to be too much. At some point, there has to be a decision made, you have to follow your gut, there needs to be continuity of care. There will always be someone that says their doctor is better, or such and such professional went to a better school, that's all great but how are their bedside manners? what about rapport? what about treating the individual, not just the symptoms or the medication, as in complicated cases like me? There is no textbook for people like me...they have to think outside the box! LOL
It may sound odd, but I'm actually looking forward to the surgery because it means there will be a recovery period. I need a break. I need to slow down...without feeling guilty about it...without worrying about dinner, folding laundry, driving anywhere...
It's been a long week with doctor appointments, physical therapy, mine and Ian's, Jan's driving school and their baseball schedule...and that's without having to stay for their games and practices. Yes, judgmental mothers of the world, I am one of THOSE mothers, that drops her kids off at practice and leaves without setting foot outside of the car! It just goes to show you, that you never know peoples' circumstances. Maybe THAT person is suffering from an illness and isn't just dropping the kids off because she thinks its a babysitting service, maybe she just can't stay because the sun makes her sick, because her backs REALLY hurts, (and all of her other joints too), because she has surgery coming up and needs to get her affairs in order, or maybe she's caring for another family member, who is going through something like this. Well, that's my two cents. Anyway, Mark gets to ALL the games and practices and cheers them on and is the supportive parent, LOL.
I'm also overwhelmed. This week alone there were 8 medical appointments: vocal test, rheumatologist, physical therapy (me), physical therapy (Ian), surgeon (new), MH therapy, pain management (new), barium x-ray with swallow for upper GI (diagnostic for pre-surgery). This is about an average week of medical appointments, only the doctors, tests and days of the week change. Its a lot to handle! And driving is so painful! I also have to add, I am scared to see new doctors. So far, this week I have been SOOOOO lucky, in that they have been EXTREMELY friendly, they have made me feel at ease from the very first minute, and have been VERY knowledgeable in EDS!!! In fact, the surgeon asked for a test pre-surgery saying he would be surprised if I DIDN'T have a hiatal hernia because it's so common in EDS and I already have the advance GERD that goes with it! The Gastro that referred me, who is also relatively new, is such a sweetheart too! But, tomorrow I see the pain management people and I'm so scared that they'll think all I want is pain drugs. I'm sure they see that a lot, and I do want them to be able to find SOMETHING that I can use, especially post-surgery, but their facility has so many resources: TENS, PT, electro-stim therapy, ultrasound...that I know would be useful to me. Besides, I'm allergic to so many pain meds, that have got to know I'm not drug seeking! I'm also willing to do the work to feel better, but there HAS to be SOMETHING to at least EASE the pain when it gets really really bad.
With how overwhelming this all is, I hesitate,(roll my eyes and want to slap someone) when I hear, "maybe you should get a second opinion..." I think the medical team I have really is doing the best they can considering my circumstances. I have changed doctors when I have felt uncomfortable or felt that their attention and care has been sub par. I know that "a second opinion never hurts" but when a third and fourth are being sought it gets to be too much. At some point, there has to be a decision made, you have to follow your gut, there needs to be continuity of care. There will always be someone that says their doctor is better, or such and such professional went to a better school, that's all great but how are their bedside manners? what about rapport? what about treating the individual, not just the symptoms or the medication, as in complicated cases like me? There is no textbook for people like me...they have to think outside the box! LOL
It may sound odd, but I'm actually looking forward to the surgery because it means there will be a recovery period. I need a break. I need to slow down...without feeling guilty about it...without worrying about dinner, folding laundry, driving anywhere...
Friday, June 15, 2012
My new pain scale
I've devised a new pain scale for myself. From 0-10: 0 means no pain (not surprising), 5 means pain is present but is tolerable, (again, not surprising). here is where I change it up: 8 means pain is really intense and I'm not getting any relief from any of my meds, tears are starting to come to my eyes and I'm continually asking myself, why must there be so much pain? why? why? why? I'm pacing myself because the pain can only get worse and the next steps are drastic steps. 9 means I would consider going to a hospital. I'm generally reluctant about this because the first thing doctors unfamiliar with me or a patient like me think is "drug seeker", then they're stumped because I'm allergic to everything and go into a "we don't know what we can do to help you" mode. The hospital generally ends up being a loooooong waste of time for a few short hours of relief, if any relief at all. 10 means I would think about taking my life because its just too much to bear; I haven't gotten there yet, thank God! Right now I would say I'm at an 8. Nothing is helping and the nearest doctor visit is Tuesday; this will be a long weekend for me and I will medicate as necessary to make it to Tuesday. Desperation is starting to set in. At this point, and under these circumstances, I would have to reconsider not wanting to taking prednisone ever again.
I can't read a book or my kindle because I can't hold it up, my arm is too weak and the circulation drops so I get pins and needles. I can't watch TV because my neck can't hold my head up, or at least that's how it feels and with cervical instability from EDS its physically true. Only laying back and staring at the ceiling provides any relief, but how boring is that? I can lay on my sides, any side, for only short periods of time because of the pain and burning in my neck, arm, shoulder and back.
Remember those truly dark days I mentioned in a previous post? This is one of those dark days or week.
In the midst of this, "I" has sunk into a deep depression and enters quasi-catatonic states. He worries me and his therapist and psychiatrist are very worried about him. Even his brother is worried about him and knows he's not being himself because they're not fighting anymore! If by Monday he has not responded to the new med we may have to consider hospitalization. This breaks my heart. For love of my teenage "baby", I lay aside all of my pain in an attempt to rouse him from these states and engage him in activities, conversations and games. I'll have him make choices from what's for dinner, to what TV show to watch, any little thing that will require physical and mental exertion. Despite how painful driving is to me, I will drag him to MH therapy, physical therapy, psychiatrist appointments, and baseball practice, whether he wants to go or not.
However, after all of that, I will collapse at the end of the day and pay for it dearly in mounds and waves of pain that only overmedicating with appease. To make things a little easier on myself, I'm going to have J get his permanent driver's license, hopefully by the end of next week. I this will help lighten the load for me significantly.
As always, in faith, seeking peace....and listening
I can't read a book or my kindle because I can't hold it up, my arm is too weak and the circulation drops so I get pins and needles. I can't watch TV because my neck can't hold my head up, or at least that's how it feels and with cervical instability from EDS its physically true. Only laying back and staring at the ceiling provides any relief, but how boring is that? I can lay on my sides, any side, for only short periods of time because of the pain and burning in my neck, arm, shoulder and back.
Remember those truly dark days I mentioned in a previous post? This is one of those dark days or week.
In the midst of this, "I" has sunk into a deep depression and enters quasi-catatonic states. He worries me and his therapist and psychiatrist are very worried about him. Even his brother is worried about him and knows he's not being himself because they're not fighting anymore! If by Monday he has not responded to the new med we may have to consider hospitalization. This breaks my heart. For love of my teenage "baby", I lay aside all of my pain in an attempt to rouse him from these states and engage him in activities, conversations and games. I'll have him make choices from what's for dinner, to what TV show to watch, any little thing that will require physical and mental exertion. Despite how painful driving is to me, I will drag him to MH therapy, physical therapy, psychiatrist appointments, and baseball practice, whether he wants to go or not.
However, after all of that, I will collapse at the end of the day and pay for it dearly in mounds and waves of pain that only overmedicating with appease. To make things a little easier on myself, I'm going to have J get his permanent driver's license, hopefully by the end of next week. I this will help lighten the load for me significantly.
As always, in faith, seeking peace....and listening
Wednesday, June 13, 2012
Lessons about pacing
So much pain. Everything is so hard to do. To make it worse, Mark is out of town and everything is left to me to manage and I just CAN'T DO IT. I can't get the boys to baseball practice after having to drive to doctor's appointments, the pharmacy, and keeping things together in the house. Driving is too painful and my pain is already out of control. In addition, managing a child with Bipolar Disorder takes a lot of energy. I hear the frustration and disappointment in Mark's voice when I tell him "I just can't get them to practice. I just can't drive any more. I just need to stop, rest and let the pills and ice work." Maybe I just think I hear the disappointment in his voice, in the pause after I tell him I can't, I won't. Maybe its just disappointment in myself, in what my body can no longer do, especially after riding high all of last week.
Last week I was feeling good and riding the prednisone wave until it wore off and I crashed...HARD! I can see how it can be confusing for all of us. While the going was good I was cleaning the house and doing some re-organizing. I was able to do some grocery shopping and push myself in physical therapy. I seemed like the person I was a couple of years ago. But, that was last week. Now its gone. Now the pain is so bad sometimes I want to throw up. I even think of going to the hospital just so they can give me even a few short hours of relief, but the hassle of going to the hospital isn't worth it...and whatever they do wont be permanent. I know the muscle relaxers, the ice and rest will allow the irritation to subside and the pain will eventually go away, but for now, the end is nowhere in sight. I can't even think! The pain clouds my thought process, my judgment. I can't hold a book or my kindle in my hands because the pain runs from my neck and shoulder down through my arm. It doesn't matter anyway because I can't concentrate to follow the words on the book...so much for distraction. It's my fault though. I have been reading a couple of books on Hypermobility and EDS and if there's one thing they absolutely stressed it was PACING! During the good times, make sure to schedule rest, during the painful times, schedule more rest...I did not heed their advice. I hope I have learned my lesson. I say hope becuase its still hard not to wish to be who I was, but I will get there...we, as a family, will get there. The mourning will subside and acceptance will come. I already signed Jan up to get his permanent license so that he can help me out more. Mark travels a lot and driving is too much, so Jan can do more...like drive himself and Ian to baseball practice!
I finally gave in and asked the genetics doctor for a referral to pain management. There has to be something to make this at least more tolerable, right? I hadn't pursued this before because on my journey to diagnosis I heard from so many doctors that I was drug dependent, or over medicating, or its just not possible that Cymbalta and Lyrica don't work, or it can't be that bad. I felt judged, insulted, hurt. I felt I was being called a drug addict and a liar. It just made me feel more inadequate and weak. I doubt myself and wondered if there was something wrong with me because I couldn't handle this and maybe everyone else in the world could. But the pain was so unbearable it took my breath away and the medicine they gave me made me sick!!! Now I know, that I actually have an incredibly high threshold for pain and am incredibly stoic, waiting too long before treating my pain. I also learned that according to EDS standards I have been under-medicated all this time. How dare they judge me! How dare they qualify my pain! How dare they make me think I'm weak when I have been incredibly strong!
However, in taking this steps towards formal pain manegement treatment another challenge begins. I pose a treatment conundrum for any doctor. I can't be treated with narcotics/opioids because of allergic reactions which have become progressively worse. I can't take naproxen or ibuprofen because of ulcers. I can't take SSRI's or SNRI's (antidepressants and its relatives, some of which help relieve neuropathic pain) because they worsen the migraines. Right now muscle relaxers are the only thing that are providing any relief, but they pose a danger for Ehlers-Danlos because the longer I take them they higher the likely hood of dislocations and subluxations. Right now I'm taking 3 muscle relaxers at the same time; needless to say, not good for my loose joints as well as for driving. As always, when I see a new doctor I have to begin the process of "convincing" them that "yes I have tried all of these medicines" and they all cause side effects, and "no, I will not try them again" and "no, just because I will not try them again does not make me resistant to treatment". Believe me this can be quite difficult when a doctor has been trained to believe that this MUST work on ALL patients! Hopefully, because the doctor I have been referred to, who is a specialist in patients with EDS, will be more understanding, and will make this process less grueling. I may have to refer THEM to consult with my primary care physician for evidence!
Another reason I waited is that because of these same challenges, I didn't think there was anything left for me to treat pain. I still don't expect much from it. But, now that I have experienced the difference between, me with pain and me without pain, I want more! I researched the UC Pain Management Center and saw the various therapies they offers including TENS, which I think might benefit the scarred tissue in my left shoulder that continues getting irritated and "spastic". I have allowed myself to feel a tiny sparkle, a glimmer, of hope. It's been so hard, disappointing, soul crushing, to go from feeling great to excruciating pain once again. I must say, I don't want to be on prednisone again unless its absolutely necessary, like for asthma or an allergic reaction. As a hypothetical, if presented with the choice between prednisone as a pain relief option and noting else, I really don't know if I would choose the pain. I want to be pain-free, or at least have a better quality of life, but prednisone has too many side effects. Right now I can't wait to loose this weight and feel like myself again. Yes, we are a society that relies on image too much, but such is life. I also don't recognize myself, my body, anymore and that doesn't help me feel any better. Its a vicious cycle:
pain, which requires rest to reduce damage, prednisone to reduce inflammation, prednisone weight gain, rest equals no exercise to lose prednisone weight gain, increased pain because of not exercising :0(
As always, trusting that God will send his angels to guide me along the right path. I continue listening...in faith.
Last week I was feeling good and riding the prednisone wave until it wore off and I crashed...HARD! I can see how it can be confusing for all of us. While the going was good I was cleaning the house and doing some re-organizing. I was able to do some grocery shopping and push myself in physical therapy. I seemed like the person I was a couple of years ago. But, that was last week. Now its gone. Now the pain is so bad sometimes I want to throw up. I even think of going to the hospital just so they can give me even a few short hours of relief, but the hassle of going to the hospital isn't worth it...and whatever they do wont be permanent. I know the muscle relaxers, the ice and rest will allow the irritation to subside and the pain will eventually go away, but for now, the end is nowhere in sight. I can't even think! The pain clouds my thought process, my judgment. I can't hold a book or my kindle in my hands because the pain runs from my neck and shoulder down through my arm. It doesn't matter anyway because I can't concentrate to follow the words on the book...so much for distraction. It's my fault though. I have been reading a couple of books on Hypermobility and EDS and if there's one thing they absolutely stressed it was PACING! During the good times, make sure to schedule rest, during the painful times, schedule more rest...I did not heed their advice. I hope I have learned my lesson. I say hope becuase its still hard not to wish to be who I was, but I will get there...we, as a family, will get there. The mourning will subside and acceptance will come. I already signed Jan up to get his permanent license so that he can help me out more. Mark travels a lot and driving is too much, so Jan can do more...like drive himself and Ian to baseball practice!
I finally gave in and asked the genetics doctor for a referral to pain management. There has to be something to make this at least more tolerable, right? I hadn't pursued this before because on my journey to diagnosis I heard from so many doctors that I was drug dependent, or over medicating, or its just not possible that Cymbalta and Lyrica don't work, or it can't be that bad. I felt judged, insulted, hurt. I felt I was being called a drug addict and a liar. It just made me feel more inadequate and weak. I doubt myself and wondered if there was something wrong with me because I couldn't handle this and maybe everyone else in the world could. But the pain was so unbearable it took my breath away and the medicine they gave me made me sick!!! Now I know, that I actually have an incredibly high threshold for pain and am incredibly stoic, waiting too long before treating my pain. I also learned that according to EDS standards I have been under-medicated all this time. How dare they judge me! How dare they qualify my pain! How dare they make me think I'm weak when I have been incredibly strong!
However, in taking this steps towards formal pain manegement treatment another challenge begins. I pose a treatment conundrum for any doctor. I can't be treated with narcotics/opioids because of allergic reactions which have become progressively worse. I can't take naproxen or ibuprofen because of ulcers. I can't take SSRI's or SNRI's (antidepressants and its relatives, some of which help relieve neuropathic pain) because they worsen the migraines. Right now muscle relaxers are the only thing that are providing any relief, but they pose a danger for Ehlers-Danlos because the longer I take them they higher the likely hood of dislocations and subluxations. Right now I'm taking 3 muscle relaxers at the same time; needless to say, not good for my loose joints as well as for driving. As always, when I see a new doctor I have to begin the process of "convincing" them that "yes I have tried all of these medicines" and they all cause side effects, and "no, I will not try them again" and "no, just because I will not try them again does not make me resistant to treatment". Believe me this can be quite difficult when a doctor has been trained to believe that this MUST work on ALL patients! Hopefully, because the doctor I have been referred to, who is a specialist in patients with EDS, will be more understanding, and will make this process less grueling. I may have to refer THEM to consult with my primary care physician for evidence!
Another reason I waited is that because of these same challenges, I didn't think there was anything left for me to treat pain. I still don't expect much from it. But, now that I have experienced the difference between, me with pain and me without pain, I want more! I researched the UC Pain Management Center and saw the various therapies they offers including TENS, which I think might benefit the scarred tissue in my left shoulder that continues getting irritated and "spastic". I have allowed myself to feel a tiny sparkle, a glimmer, of hope. It's been so hard, disappointing, soul crushing, to go from feeling great to excruciating pain once again. I must say, I don't want to be on prednisone again unless its absolutely necessary, like for asthma or an allergic reaction. As a hypothetical, if presented with the choice between prednisone as a pain relief option and noting else, I really don't know if I would choose the pain. I want to be pain-free, or at least have a better quality of life, but prednisone has too many side effects. Right now I can't wait to loose this weight and feel like myself again. Yes, we are a society that relies on image too much, but such is life. I also don't recognize myself, my body, anymore and that doesn't help me feel any better. Its a vicious cycle:
pain, which requires rest to reduce damage, prednisone to reduce inflammation, prednisone weight gain, rest equals no exercise to lose prednisone weight gain, increased pain because of not exercising :0(
As always, trusting that God will send his angels to guide me along the right path. I continue listening...in faith.
Thursday, June 7, 2012
On feelings
A friend asked that I write more about my feelings and how I'm coping through my ordeal. I pondered this and thought, "but I am writing about my feelings what does he mean?" Then I looked deeper and admitted to myself that, truly, I have been holding back. One reason for this is that, despite all evidence to the contrary (such as this blog :), I don't like to whine about my pain, about my sadness or about my problems in general. Another reason for holding back is that there have been some truly dark days, and I have been afraid to scare the reader. There have been days when I have told myself aloud "I will not be on a 72 hour hold. I can handle this. I have skills and a support system" then proceed to list my phone tree in my head. I do not think it unreasonable for someone who lives in chronic pain and cannot take any pain medication to also have depression and contemplate negative and dark thoughts, even if for a fleeting moment. Rest assured, they are fleeting moments. I love my family too much to give in to such ideas. . Finally, I thought that it might bore the reader with a rehashing of the same feelings. However, if this is to be an autobiographical account of my experience then I must be true and raw as to my experience. So I thank my friend for getting me back on track and to what the original purpose of this blog was meant to be....reader be darned!
With wanting to express my feelings in mind I stopped and asked myself "what would I do with a client in this situation? First, I'd meet them where they're at; then, ask them to focus on what they're feeling not what they're thinking." Keeping this in mind, I searched for where it is that I'm at and came up with: I'm in a place of mourning. I know, mentally, the old me, the old way of life is gone, but its still too recent, too new and emotionally it still hurts. Although I know that old life is gone, I haven't completely assimilated it, there are still things that remind me of that old life and cause me to cry. For example, Sunday I went to my boys' baseball games and even though I was in the shade, with a cool breeze (I was freezing), and I was drinking Gatorade I got dehydrated and near sun poisoning. It just served to remind me that the person who could walk down the beaches of Puerto Rico under the sun and without a care in the world, is gone...she's DEAD and she will NEVER come back. Things will never be the same, EVER!!!
I haven't yet gotten to adapting and becoming the person I'm going to HAVE TO BE to live this new life. I don't know that person yet. I think that as one part dies another part will have to replace it...if I allow it. And that's harder than it sounds. Some things are hard to let go. Even simple things that most people take for granted. For example, sandals! They are so beautiful, come in so many colors and styles, but when I use them I end up with knee pain, back pain and migraine pain (all about spine alignment that starts at the arch of the foot). Sounds like a no-brainer right?? You'd think so, but having experienced so many losses at the hands of this disease already, I want to rebel against losing sandals too! I also want to rebel against having the boys' lives pass me by while I'm stuck in the house (which is why I'm thinking of completing my transformation into full vampire!) Now I can't attend the games between the hours of 8 am - 8 pm (LOL) so I rebel against seeing the disappointment in their faces, and my ensuing feelings of self-hatred at missing yet another game. It feels like Sophie's Choice! Attend the games and risk sun poisoning, dehydration, migraine for 3 days, neck and back pain because I was sitting in a lawn chair through a double-header; or, stay home and make dinner for them, work on my physical therapy exercises to reduce pain and recover as needed, but feel disappointed and disgusted at myself?
In the meantime, after his manic episode, my son has become depressed although, thankfully, not suicidal. His doctor has added Abilify again as an "antidepressant" since he has historically become manic on antidepressants but has responded positively to Abilify. He's been sleeping 14-15 hours a day, looks almost zombie-like, is irritable and cries easily. He doesn't even want to play basketball outside!!! Oh, let me not forget, he got Shingles too, the poor guy :( So now he's on Seroquel, Trileptal and Abilify...no I don't think they're too much, I think they are just right for his condition and the way his symptoms have developed. These are also the only meds that have worked for him.
On a positive note, I started doing some Pilates at home. Just the mat exercises that I've seen on YouTube and in Pilates Style magazine. I have to say I'm pretty proud at myself! I'm not as deconditioned as I thought I was, probably because of the physical therapy. I find the exercises pretty easy to do, which seems to be the norm for Ehlers-Danlos/hypermobile people and continue to astonish myself at the way my body bends and how I can hold certain positions. Maybe I'm being overambitious but....I'd like to be able to do Barre Ballet at some point :)) The Pilates stretches actually feel GOOD on my joints, as if they had been yelling STRETCH ME!!! STRETCH ME!!! After reading on EDS, they probably were so now I'm taking advantage of them. Plus, I've been on prednisone for a month now and really want to get this bloating off.
On a negative, another surgery is looming in the not-so-far future. This would be my 3rd in 6 months. It be acid-reflux surgery. I hate that it's called that becuase I feel it implies that I'm just FAT and eat fatty greasy foods when in truth I eat fruits and yogurt and cereal. Anyway, twe've tried every medication possible to no avail. If it continues untreated the erosions and ulcers in my esophagus could perforate the wall (WHOA!) needing major surgery or could turn cancerous (Double WHOA!). After that, they will check my vocal cords to see if there has been any permanent damage from the reflux. Worst case scenario? You guessed it, another surgery! So I get to worrying, with all my med allergies, what if something happens in surgery? and what can they give me for pain?
As always, I keep praying and listening. I continue to see God's hand in everything I do whether its through moments that might be called "serendipity", a book that reaches my hand at just the right moment, or a person that stops me and says some kind words...just keep listening.
With wanting to express my feelings in mind I stopped and asked myself "what would I do with a client in this situation? First, I'd meet them where they're at; then, ask them to focus on what they're feeling not what they're thinking." Keeping this in mind, I searched for where it is that I'm at and came up with: I'm in a place of mourning. I know, mentally, the old me, the old way of life is gone, but its still too recent, too new and emotionally it still hurts. Although I know that old life is gone, I haven't completely assimilated it, there are still things that remind me of that old life and cause me to cry. For example, Sunday I went to my boys' baseball games and even though I was in the shade, with a cool breeze (I was freezing), and I was drinking Gatorade I got dehydrated and near sun poisoning. It just served to remind me that the person who could walk down the beaches of Puerto Rico under the sun and without a care in the world, is gone...she's DEAD and she will NEVER come back. Things will never be the same, EVER!!!
I haven't yet gotten to adapting and becoming the person I'm going to HAVE TO BE to live this new life. I don't know that person yet. I think that as one part dies another part will have to replace it...if I allow it. And that's harder than it sounds. Some things are hard to let go. Even simple things that most people take for granted. For example, sandals! They are so beautiful, come in so many colors and styles, but when I use them I end up with knee pain, back pain and migraine pain (all about spine alignment that starts at the arch of the foot). Sounds like a no-brainer right?? You'd think so, but having experienced so many losses at the hands of this disease already, I want to rebel against losing sandals too! I also want to rebel against having the boys' lives pass me by while I'm stuck in the house (which is why I'm thinking of completing my transformation into full vampire!) Now I can't attend the games between the hours of 8 am - 8 pm (LOL) so I rebel against seeing the disappointment in their faces, and my ensuing feelings of self-hatred at missing yet another game. It feels like Sophie's Choice! Attend the games and risk sun poisoning, dehydration, migraine for 3 days, neck and back pain because I was sitting in a lawn chair through a double-header; or, stay home and make dinner for them, work on my physical therapy exercises to reduce pain and recover as needed, but feel disappointed and disgusted at myself?
In the meantime, after his manic episode, my son has become depressed although, thankfully, not suicidal. His doctor has added Abilify again as an "antidepressant" since he has historically become manic on antidepressants but has responded positively to Abilify. He's been sleeping 14-15 hours a day, looks almost zombie-like, is irritable and cries easily. He doesn't even want to play basketball outside!!! Oh, let me not forget, he got Shingles too, the poor guy :( So now he's on Seroquel, Trileptal and Abilify...no I don't think they're too much, I think they are just right for his condition and the way his symptoms have developed. These are also the only meds that have worked for him.
On a positive note, I started doing some Pilates at home. Just the mat exercises that I've seen on YouTube and in Pilates Style magazine. I have to say I'm pretty proud at myself! I'm not as deconditioned as I thought I was, probably because of the physical therapy. I find the exercises pretty easy to do, which seems to be the norm for Ehlers-Danlos/hypermobile people and continue to astonish myself at the way my body bends and how I can hold certain positions. Maybe I'm being overambitious but....I'd like to be able to do Barre Ballet at some point :)) The Pilates stretches actually feel GOOD on my joints, as if they had been yelling STRETCH ME!!! STRETCH ME!!! After reading on EDS, they probably were so now I'm taking advantage of them. Plus, I've been on prednisone for a month now and really want to get this bloating off.
On a negative, another surgery is looming in the not-so-far future. This would be my 3rd in 6 months. It be acid-reflux surgery. I hate that it's called that becuase I feel it implies that I'm just FAT and eat fatty greasy foods when in truth I eat fruits and yogurt and cereal. Anyway, twe've tried every medication possible to no avail. If it continues untreated the erosions and ulcers in my esophagus could perforate the wall (WHOA!) needing major surgery or could turn cancerous (Double WHOA!). After that, they will check my vocal cords to see if there has been any permanent damage from the reflux. Worst case scenario? You guessed it, another surgery! So I get to worrying, with all my med allergies, what if something happens in surgery? and what can they give me for pain?
As always, I keep praying and listening. I continue to see God's hand in everything I do whether its through moments that might be called "serendipity", a book that reaches my hand at just the right moment, or a person that stops me and says some kind words...just keep listening.
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